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I’m not taking anyone’s side, I just don’t hate anyone!

There was a time in my life when I used to passionately hate a bollywood star (he who should not be named for any accidents). I used to get so angry listening to his name and I stopped going to his newly released movies and I used to get in debates and I started arguing with people who used to support him. I saw a similar pattern in me for a politician, I was in awe of this guy, I was in awe of what he stood for and then when I started seeing him taking u-turns and publicly accusing the PM of the country, I started hating him to the core and while in the process I started digging stories against him and hating him even more, only to realize one day that I’m passionately hating this guy and I’m wasting my time in doing so, I’m getting in an argument to prove a point and it is not getting constructive in anyway and then I stopped hating him and anyone around and I started learning to be...

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When community made my flat a home :)

Any gestures (materialistic/non-materialistic) that people show have depth of love that they have felt, and its an expression of their love.

2 years ago I had moved in the current house. When I moved in, it was the first time I was going to stay with my sister and now this flat was set to become home for both of us. It wasn’t a bachelor’s apartment anymore, it was the place which we wanted to be a comfort zone for us, we wanted it to be our happy place.

Steadily, we started doing Karma Meals in that space. Every week volunteers would come together and we would do Karma Meals from home. It brought in so many people and so many energies. The whole space started transforming steadily. It felt like a perfect home for us, a home that hosted so many people and their journeys, a home that made both of us good friends with so many people, a home that always had a comforting lap not just for...

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Just some answers

  1. What things that you have to do make you uneasy?
    Say ‘Yes’ to non-important things, in that moment I know that I’m doing it and I do this sometimes giving my work the second priority because I don’t want to be rude.

  2. What things frustrate you?
    Doing patch work or in Hindi words ‘Thuk lagane ke kaam’. This one is the biggest of all, if you can’t do it, just say it and that’s it, don’t do patch work and waste both of our times.

  3. What just seems broken?
    Trust between people in cities, we are busy running from A to B so much and we don’t think beyond it, reaching ‘B’ seems so important that we sometimes tend do it any cost and on the way give others experience that they might not deserve and because the other has gone through shit thrown by the earlier person, his trust level goes down.

  4. What activity do you dread the most in a given day?
    Keeping my goals achievable, Reaching office without...

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Linguistic Change or Literal Transformation

I’m recently wondering on meanings of many synonyms that sometimes are used inter-changeably. I feel that the linguistic change is simple but the inner- change is not. It took me long enough to understand the depth of the linguistic change. For example instead of contributing money to a initiative, one can say donating money to a project. I personally feel that for me contributing comes from the space of heart and donating comes from the space of head and similarly the word ‘project’ comes from the space of head and ‘initiative’ comes from the space of heart. And while I’m on my journey to try to shift from head to heart, these small linguistical changes somehow hold really deep meaning for me.

I’m unknowingly thinking about this linguistic change since quite sometime and today I came across thinking the difference between Change and Transformation. The way I understand, change happens...

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3 Dominant Paradigms

As a part of a particular activity, I was reflecting upon my dominant paradigms and these are the three I could relate to.

Having a full time job:
So much has been talked about having and leaving a full time job. Its definitely a dominant paradigm for me, so many times I have thought that am I doing a right thing by having a full time job? So many times have I been told that “Hey, if you want to do something of your own, you can’t do it with your job” but time and again I have never stopped doing things because of my full time job. I think having a full time job and finding time for all the things ‘I need to do’ is helping me a lot, it is something that has made a me learn so many things.
Primarily the fact also remains that, I love the job that I do. I get up and look up to the day of my office work and then there are also the things that I love besides my job, for e.g This circle that...

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Will having a death line ever work?

I’m wondering this since quite sometime, will having a death line work? I’ve heard so many stories of people living more for more than 2 years even when their doctor says “ You have got 6 months max”. Is it possible that a person start living and enjoying every moment when they know that they only have so much of time to live? Is it possible that this happiness and this living from moment to moment makes the person live more happily and that fuels into that extended time? I would like to think that it is possible and it all makes sense for me. Imagine, you have 6 months to live, you might drop half the things you are doing, If I have kept stocks in my account, I would transfer them to a loved one and ask them to worry about it, I would stop worrying about things that don’t matter, I will drop that fight or the cold war I was having with someone close. I will not dream about buying a...

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Meals on wheels - reflections

It was a great experience in stepping up meals on wheels.

I got inspired from the idea of circles from mumbai meals on wheels and we thought that we could have a lose structure around meals on wheels.

Opening circle : Typically with a short inspiring story and a seed question.
Activity circle : Cutting-chopping, Cooking, Cleaning up
Circle of Connection : Moving out on street with food, sitting with strangers and having our dinner while connecting through stories, games, light hearted chats
Reflection Circle : Volunteers coming back and sharing their reflections and ‘aha’ moments

*Opening circle (begins with 10 minutes of silence and closes with 2 minutes of silence) *
With all the old volunteers coming together, and this was the first time where we wanted to talk about new processes we opened the circle with a specific question “How was our journey with meals on wheels and What...

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2.0

Meals on wheels since last 3 years has more been a journey within myself than out there on the streets.

I still remember the first time when we hit the streets, I was reflecting for a long time that, why did it make me feel sad after I came back from serving the food? I still hold that question.

Over the years, it has been a reflective journey for a lot of volunteers like me. The idea of meals on wheels was never to become an organization or a centralized model but to be more and more decentralized. I always loosly held these thoughts but never knew this lingo of centralization and decentralization, Thanks to Moved by love people that I’m finding my path with this tiny labour of love. The path we all volunteers are exploring is more or less the same and hence we thought may be we could make this a little more reflective and a space for self exploration along with our labour of love...

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Well this is alive for me right now

The thing about ego, building self confidence with people’s praise and the idea of recognition might be the root of evil in me. True love is something that grows beyond that and which is executed and nurtured even when no one’s looking, can I get there? ever? I don’t know but the max I can do right now is try, as they say ‘Journey is the reward’ .

May be along the way I’ll start seeing it all, right now I’m holding a possibility that , all I’m doing might just be for the praise I want, along the way I’ll realise if it’s true, but right now I want to be present to the idea that this is what I’m doing, may be the idea of doing things for praise isn’t bad, but expecting that I’ll be praised for doing something is, right now the only thing I’m sure about that I do without actively looking for praise is “Meals on Wheels”. I sometimes feel even the job that I do is for recognition, sometimes...

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Sharing and Distributing

I’m pondering over this thought since quite some time. I’m wondering what do I really do when I share something or gift someone something. It started with a conscious practice of gifting a particular thing to someone and observing how I feel about it. It started off as an intellectual game for me, but steadily and subtly it has come far from that and today I can sense the difference between, ‘donating’, ‘giving’, ‘giving-away’, ‘sharing’, ‘distributing’ ‘contributing’ ‘serving’, the meaning could be similar and a lot of times I used to use word ‘donating’ and ‘sharing’ or ‘distributing and 'serving’ inter-changeably but very subtly I can see the difference between them (even if there isn’t any).

Personally, for me it makes a difference when I use the word ‘serving’ instead of ‘distributing’. Sharing gives me a sense of oneness between me and the person with whom I’m sharing something...

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